Answerable Question

Who you gonna love? is a mind-boggling question for any gender and any age.

It relates to good vibes in physical attraction, mindfulness, education and timeliness, The question clamors for good vibes in communication, sexiness, friends and family too.

This information about your possible “Other” needs to be collected and analyzed by YOU.

When you’ve come to the answer, you’ll find you’ve analyzed YOU too. Whether you think you’ve got your first boyfriend, are newly wedded, LGBT or known to be too picky this read will hand over information on what lies beneath.

Prepare to latch onto ways of adapting yourself. THERE ARE NO SOULMATES who’ll magically appear on your path. But here you’ll quickly be able to sort choices using personality tests and descriptions. Thread your needle with relationship research reports not generally available to the public.

No magical thinking is required yet you’ll have a super time accessing how to be wanted.

Curtain Raiser

Undeniably, Who You Gonna Love? is a question alive in our minds from childhood often until the end of life. Who’s going to be our best friend, do we love Mom of Dad more, which one stacks up as our favorite teacher, who’ll invite us to Prom and who will we marry???

The question resounds until we designate our final beneficiary.

Here you’ll find the conditions of many lives at many ages and stages. Please join us often and be a participant by commenting and observing. It keeps the words flowing. Happy you’re here!

If You’re the One. . .He’s Gonna Change

People are sometimes awfully hard to read. But sometimes you don’t need to hear them say something to know it’s true (or, at least, to think that it might be).

Men can send some big-time signals through the things that they do, and there are some weird things men do when they realize they met the one that, if you’re in a relationship with one, you may be interested in knowing more about.

Because people can be so difficult to read (and because expressing emotions can also sometimes be difficult), even if you think you know quite well that your partner thinks you’re the one and sees your relationship lasting long-term, there’s still a chance that you’ll question things from time to time and find yourself looking for some fairly subtle (or super obvious) clues that this really is how they feel.

Know How Girlfriends Fit In


Now, he’s your boyfriend.  No vows have been exchanged.  You need to accept that he’s still a single act.  But still, HOW DO YOU KNOW?  After 3 days your feminine instincts begin flashing red lights. . .another girlfriend. . . married. . .in an accident.  You don’t want to be with a guy who’s working at how you’ll fit in.   If he lives up to the 72 Hours Rule, he loves you.  If not, there are ways to change that. . .


Once upon a time I had a boyfriend who would take me out for lunches when he was on his way to the local dump.   I was the last rung on his ladder.  It turned out he had a wife.

 He “Loved Me Not.”  And yes, I dumped him

It’s nice to be invited.  But set your clock.  How many ball games, everyday errands or mixers with his friends are you willing to attend?  Will it make you feel that he just likes having you around?  Does it make you feel like YOU have his attention?  Clock it.  If you have to cajole or plead for a one on one for dinner or any activity, something’s wrong .You’re not getting any RESPECT.  You yearn to be special.  But you’re not yet.


Here Are Some More Ways to Know


Loves Me, Loves Me Not

Well does he?  If you’ve been left hanging, try this formula. Wait 20 minutes. After that, cut bait and go on with the rest of your day!

When BF is befuddled by your behavior, explain that the 20-minute rule is one you apply to EVERYONE.  Even him.  If he understands and lives up to your expectation, count it as a “He Loves You.” Notice and appreciate his courtesy.  Bubble over with how glad you are to see him.

This quality is a habit of a considerate guy.  He’s treating you right. Let him know it’s important to you and it will continue. 

By the way, his promptness is a characteristic that will help take him far in his chosen career.  It shows employers and clients they are receiving polite respect. Chalk up a “He Loves You.”


Does he say, “You’ve got to be kidding me. . .You’re out of your mind. . .get a grip” or make other comments that are put-downs?   If he does, he likely loves himself more than he loves you.  You’ve got a guy with ego enlargement. 

 If you’re aware, you can deal with it.  Begin by telling him your thoughts are as important as anyone’s.  Until you begin getting more respect, count this as an “I Love You Not.”  Do nothing.  Don’t be clingy. No cards, Emails, texts or calls.

Give it some Time to see what happens.